Reverse Psychology!!!

The first time I read this word in the dictionary I found out it to be silly, later on when I remembered my past memories of some friends and colleagues I found out this is one of an interesting topic to speak about or write as well!!

Basically, every boy or girl according to the human psychology needs a partner at a certain age or I can say when their hormones raise!!

The main purpose of mine to write this post is to let people know that small tips to maintain a healthy relationship with the people you love.

Tip 1:  If a Boy ignores you and convey that he hates you but the problem is you love him,

The reverse psychology is that to achieve the main purpose of the task but in different way so, just convey that boy how much you love him and everything and then suddenly stop disturbing him, this will make him think of you for sure!!

(Yes, why would I behave so crazily like this and what if he elopes with another girl as am not disturbing him??   )

One thing is its human nature to respond to bad quickly than the good things. ( I don’t mean your love is the bad thing happened to that boy)  Our mind reacts to bad or something which it doesn’t like quickly, don’t you think you will sit quiet if some people come and talk some rubbish on you , in the same way your brain thinks of that person who used to bother you a lot though you are not interested to think of!!

Now, that boy will definitely think of you and will try to understand the things went on in the days you disturbed him. If he was slightly interested in you, he will try to talk to you may be like a person who hates you or like a stranger now, this is the time you need to prove yourself. Be normal with him and don’t show too much love towards him so that he tries to understand your love and see you not being his lover but a girl waiting for a partner.

(This tip in reverse can be applied to a girl as well )

Many youth these days commit suicide due to the rejection of love but life is more important than love so, if you know some of these little tips in relations a life can be saved and a person life is more important than anything in this world after all!!!

Tip 2: Your child bothers you all the time and does exact the reverse of what you have asked him or her to do.

Basically, we raise our kids in such a way that they shouldn’t get hurt, they can spend whatever money they need etc. Well we didn’t know that by doing in this way we are actually spoiling our kids future.

They become more and more stubborn and next they won’t even listen our words and as we love them so much we cannot beat them up. So how to manage these stubborn kids, reverse psychology works people!!

If your kid asks for a toy and he cries and cries for it then give him so, the next time he does the same stunt just to get that toy he needed. Then you just ignore his cry, he may not have his food all day but ignore and next day he will definitely change and will say it’s ok am fine with not having that toy.

(Seriously, you want my kid to starve whole day??? R u nuts??? )

Well, god might be the creator of humans but parents are the creators of their own kids so, we have to choose the right path to make our children go in a good direction. They will surely develop bad feelings about us because of our strictness but later on as they develop they understand that toy which costs of 1000$ is not worth of their parents suffering of getting those dollars!!

What I mean to say is, we need to raise our kids to be independent than being dependent and that comes when we as parents understand the situations perfectly.

So, hopefully, I have covered two main topics that bothers a lots of people these days and feel free to post your comments and let me know your concerns as well.

Your’s friend,

Ravali.

Sweetest Pain!!!

Merry Christmas everyone!!!


Relations are great,if we can manage them in a good manner with lots of communication and understanding but are we going the right path?
Lots of disturbances arise between two people who are in a committed relationship may be due to money, friends etc, but does those problems really matters if we really love each other?
Two people fall in love with each other may be due to beauty, money, etc but what exactly can we describe love ?
I keep on seeing posts from people regarding their happy marital life in social networking sites but are they really happy?
i just want to discuss regarding the sweetest pain in a relationship in life.
Well, do we need to exactly pursue a masters degree in psychology to know about relationships, marriages etc?
Aren't we eligible to talk through our experiences in life?
many people think only, those who study human behavior are the ones who knows everything, but nobody knows anything until they research on it.

1) When your husband doesn't pick your phone, what'exactly comes into your mind?

- May be he met with an accident
-May be he is with someone special
-May be he is ignoring you
-May be he is angry

But nobody thinks this,

- May be he is in a meeting
- May be he didn't check his phone
- May be he is on the way home

So, may be the environment we live or we see is having many conceptions and we suddenly think a negative side of the story than the reality and we have a small fight with our hubby.
Even we took the positive scenario we fight due to over protectiveness but these little fights may become big some day and may cause a big break in your relationship. Why cant we take or consider
that husband is also a human being, who has the right to think, talk and do whatever he likes. Marriage is not a agreement but an understanding of two souls. It's not an agreement that you shouldn't talk to the people whom your husband hates.

2)When you see your boy friend with an another girl at a movie theater, what you do?

-Go straight to him and slap him
-Scold him
-Text him where was he

But nobody thinks this,
-May be she is his friend/relative
-Go and meet them both and have fun

Well, nobody does the positive side as they feel insecure. Being a well educated human being, its not the positive side or negative side of reaction but the way of taking the situation.
Is this scenario really helps in your life or not?
Why you even need to respond to this one?
Taking the situation as a normal one and going in peace in life is the best way to live a life. Even our own parents wont come with us at death then why are we fighting here with a person who doesn't or cannot share your death!
no relation comes with u to heaven and why do we act these silly things after knowing that.
Only a human relation is with god and to that force which supports us in good times and bad times.
Keep faith in god and lead your life in a peaceful way than irritating your brain of being in positive or negative side.
That's why i would say Life is nothing but a sweetest pain......!!!!
   

Magic Exists!!!

Sometimes in life you might be struck in one part of life, where there is nothing left in your life but then God or Fate will give you such a magic in life, it shows that there is a reason for your life and don’t make a mistake to end it!!

Love happens to everyone but not everyone are successful in it. Marriage happens to everyone but only few are successful in it. Everyone aspires to become a president or a CEO of company but not everyone can get it. So, life is all about trying for the things until we get into the zenith of it and in spite of our trials it fails then think that it’s the best part happened in life. Love happens only once but if it’s on both sides then trust me it will be the best as one-sided love just fails!

Don’t ever think life has given me such troubles in life and am just a loser because if you are always a winner in life there wouldn’t be anything that you want to dream about!

Live in the present and not the past and yes, it’s a bad dream and I know you are worried about your future but trust me, it all happened for good!!

Enjoy this present day with new hopes and new aims than cribbing about your blah, blah, past and crib all day!!

Magic exists and it will show up when it was your time and then there wouldn’t be any villain to make it hell and I bet you will rule this time for sure.

Lastly, keep smiling and don’t ever cry for that person who just walked away at the shopping mall without looking at your face in spite of you looking at him, that person who just rejected your job, because he thinks you are not worth of it, that person who just rejected your marriage proposal because you are not interesting, that person who just made you fail in exam because you didn’t wrote the exam well, etc. All these things were not the end of world because if this wouldn’t happen in life then how can it be like this in present. If that person who walked away without looking at you, would have come and spoke to you then your life wouldn’t be this awesome, if that person wouldn’t rejected your job application then you wouldn’t be working as a CEO currently!!

So, people magic happens and it will happen at the right time and don’t worry about anything because until you are not wrong in your life, it will be always awesome and happier than you expected.

Surviving!!

The word Survival for me was like a meaning to Live this life, but there is a question behind us, that for whom?

Why we have to blame god, that we are alive?

Loosing everything in life is one way of letting us know, that we are done with life??

What's the purpose of life we are living in?

Having a husband and kids is the thing we are destined for?

Being a CEO of an MNC company is the purpose of life?

Reaching out to god through meditation is the purpose of life?

What's this Survival of Life?

Why are we living this life?

People would say, these are just crazy thoughts, you are out of mind!!

Well, my meaning of life is that, The day one we are conceived through our Mother's womb was a journey of battle to Live and come out to the world, The day we got out after nine months, we cried at first may be in happiness or in an excitement we made it through to this world, the day we crawled,that was the first time we actually tried to get hold on things we wanted in this life. The day we learned to walk, we got the motivation that we can go far places to live this life. The day we first learnt a  word is when we tried to communicate to this world. The day we learnt the communication we tried to find out the place where we need to go. Years passed by and we completed the education and in between we fall in love,suddenly we remember the purpose of life is just to raise kids with the one we love at that moment. In the course of time we think that purpose of life is to give our kids a good life. Later on,we think god is the creator of universe and one should believe him in their old age and it becomes the purpose of life. But did anyone remembered the day we were fighting for the survival in our mother's womb for this life?

What was the purpose of life then and what we achieved now?

My way of saying is Live the life you got with the same passion to achieve something new everyday, try to do something new in life today rather than thinking what's the purpose of life. We Survived that day on our Mother's womb to see this day, so what we achieved so far?

Purpose of life is nothing but living your life everyday with new thoughts and new goals rather than thinking and crying about things won't happen!!

When you found TRUE LOVE.....

Love, a beautiful feeling, a beautiful dream, a beautiful sign, a beautiful symbol which only occurs when you find the true love. 

When you close your eyes you can see a wonderful world out there which asks you to come and visit with your special one in life. When you talk to them, all you can see is that voice which kept you waiting for so long in life to meet you especially to continue your life to an different dimension, When you feel their touch we can actually know that they are just made for us by god and its a bonding which you cannot leave. Loving them every morning, every day and every minute becomes an big addiction to us from then. We will actually forget for sometime that our parents love us also but still its just that crazy feeling which is incomparable.

Feel the love with the one who loves you and don't ever keep any expectations on your loved one as your heart knows they are your's. Live this crazy dream of life like that everyday is a surprise. Love only happens with two people but not alone and when you find this you are going in a right path!!

Enjoy this phase of love in your life as a boon to you by god and make it easy path as you grow old!!

Love only can take away the pain caused by another Love...!!!

Don't loose the person who loves you as the person who loves you will love you more than the person whom you love!!!

Depression??? (ASK ME!!)

Hello Friends,
                      Life we think it's very easy if we have money, if we have family and friends but our body is not the same as we expect.sometimes we need to
understand that something is bothering us and it is not because of family or friends but something which u can't explain but u feel to cry.
Depression is one of such illness or i would say a condition, where people feel that they are fine and active but it will act them suddenly without their knowledge.

Actually depression can occur may be due to loneliness, heart broken, worries, tensions etc but mainly depression can occur normally also.People say i think you are not psychologically correct or ill but it's not correct but sometimes the brain processes too much of requests and tasks that
once it got exhausted and then we feel yes this is end of the story. Myself, i faced this situation recently, may be i was heart-broken, felt emptied,
lost hope in life even i isolated from my friends and family and i don't want to do it but i was doing it without my intention.I was acting weirdly with everyone.

At first i thought may be because i got rejected in my love may be its the problem, but later on i discovered its not about that but something else.
I was sad about the loss of my love but y am acting weird is the question banging on my head all the time. I was easily weeping on phone. Friends who knew me found out y am easily breaking down these days without any reason. It's just not a mental illness but sometimes people get into trance that they feel emptied themselves in this big world.

 May be because of lost love, may be because of career and it will start in such a way.Even i know suicide is a stupid thing to do but i felt like i have done enough and achieved enough now and just wanted to die but y, i have no reason for it. This is called depression.

But, honestly saying that being with your family and friends will make you again normal which took me two months to get back to normal. I really thank my good friend Ravi, who never let me go even though i acted weird, i screamed at him,i burs ted out in tears with him,but he was always there for me as a good friend, as a brother, he helped me to get back to normal and now i would say that i have fought the depression almost 95%.

The main Reason for me to write this article is that DEPRESSION is not any mental illness or u r mad but sometimes you are affected in life too much which makes u to be depressed. For me my friend helped me to take me out of depression
but for many its not the same so its good to consult a psychiatrist. 36% of Indians are in depression and India tops the depression rate around the world. So, i would like to convey everyone that don't be sad and just talk about it and i know depression not only being caused just because u lost something etc but it also causes scientifically due to hormonal changes as well. Women are prone to more depression than men and i would say don't isolate yourself from world
as it's not a sin to be depressed.
Battle it and live and laugh and love yourself.
Remember one thing that you are born for some reason and you are the best being yourself.
Keep smiling from your heart and don't fake it dears!!    

Parents,"We are Born to you not to the society!!"

Hello Friends,
                      This post is entirely for educating the young parents and also normal parents who think what they do is correct in their life for their children.
There are some parents who are very protective about their children as they provide clothes,gadgets, phones etc to them and think they have fulfilled their child desires. The main reason of a spoil brat is that not making him understand the hard work you have gone through to earn that gadget or whatsoever piece of item. Even the children of presidents or higher officials train their children to be self-independent because its not the matter of money but upbringing of their child in the society in a positive manner. The big mistakes parents do to their children is that they provide all the requirements of theirs without asking. Parents never or ever should encourage their kids of being dependent on anyone and it only develops by not providing them what they want (I know am kinda harsh here but my main motto is the children should actually earn the item they want either by earning somewhere or getting good marks in exams but not casually).
Second big mistake of parents was when their child gets depressed about something and they share it with them then they say to forget it. Many psychologists i have asked this question is this a correct way of getting the child not to think or be in suicidal or depression mood??
The answer i got was really appealing, what they said is that :

Let the child SPEAK,
Let them CRY wholeheartedly,
Let them SCREAM BAD WORDS,
Let the PAIN out than making them frustrated by keeping it inside of them.
Parents should try to make them understand that they are not useless and make their confidence build up as more as possible because children when at depression are needed lack of self worth. Any age children may be adults also face the same situation called "lack of self worth"while at depression which has to be supported by parents making them confident that they are not useless". I have seen many parents doing the same mistake calling their children of any age as USELESS, this small word can make their mental stability disturbed which will lead to depression, aggressiveness,;Lack of confidence within them. Children only can share with their parents and no one else and that is the biggest part what parents should understand.
Some adults who got breakups in their personal life seek loneliness due to lack of self worth and self respect among society but the simple solution for this problem is even parents should understand was that LET THEM SPEAK THEIR PAIN . Don't force or motivate them saying to forget their past but make them comfort that future may be good but let them take their time and don't make them force on anything.'Any broken heart cannot marry suddenly another person because they are in lack of confidence and trust which they can only get when the time goes on. People who are depressed will be in more pain and distress who needs time and support from not only parents but also by friends who has to understand their pain and make them comfort until they get stabilize.

My sincere advice for all the parents around the world that your children is your responsibility, your child has to face the society alone but only if you support them nicely, LET THEM SPEAK THEIR PAIN OUT, LET THEM CRY THEIR PAIN OUT, LET THEM OPEN UP........!!!

My Valentine!!

When i woke up suddenly in the middle of night it was because of this crazy dream of yours that there will be a day, that i have to leave you behind.

 Love is crazy when you actually fall in it. May be the other person may not love you but if your love was true they will definitely understand it. Love has no boundaries, no caste, nothing at all. Love is pure when you actually feel it. 

This valentine your Ravie wishing all of you a Happy Valentine's day and also to my Love who is somewhere hidden among you.

Baby, I may not be perfect girl you wished for but i always trusted you and loved you so much more than anyone else in this world. If you are out there somewhere and can hear my voice do come back.

I miss you Baby!!

Silent voices

I know u luv me,but u dare not to express it

I know u care for me,but u disguise urself not to express it

I know u support me,but you act of not to

I know u cannot let me die,but u don't know someday I have to....

Ur eyes always predict the existence of luv towards me

Ur breath always make me feel that am alive

Ur voice always make me teach that am in love

Ur face always make me recognize that am Urs 

Ur heart always make me respond that am inside it

Now, ur distance makes me die daily just to be with u may be in next life....

Baby, it's just u who can make me stand and how can u leave me in this ocean of life and go to such distances that u will never come back??

Baby, how can I live this life just being a loner??

These voices are always heard by everyone those who come across of their failure in love and lost their love and this is dedicated to those who lost their love and failed in their love....

Life's just a Ramp Walk!!

The ramp is set before you can walk and all you need is to show up your confidence and go forward. The music is on, but still nothing to be heard except the walk to be completed by you. There will be many who will appreciate your walk and even take photographs of you and some will throw some tantrums or lewd comments on you but still you need to finish the walk on the ramp with an attitude and confidence within you. The show might start early and there might be many people who are walking along with you in this ramp but still if you loose your confidence you will slip on the ramp but still you should not give up or loose your attitude and finish the ramp walk. The ramp i mention here is this World created by god for us and there might be uncertainties in life but still you should complete this walk with the same old attitude and confidence you started in this life from the day you are born. 

Sometimes in life we need to build up good confidence within us, even though you are lost with the inner-most saddest parts of your life but still you need to have the confidence within you to get your life into a new phase. I slipped in this ramp walk many times and had got hurt with the lewd comments of people watching me but still i need to finish this walk at any cost and i got up and still walking...

Recently, i went to a fashion show event for the first time in the life which showed me that life is nothing but just a ramp walk. I have seen the models getting slipped sometimes because of the high heels but still their expressions on their face are the same, they didn't felt a shy or cried in front of everyone but they took it in a positive manner and completed the walk, that's what any one should have in their life. I know i have slipped many times in my life but until you finish this ramp walk you are not going to reach your purpose of life, so what i feel is life is just a ramp walk...

Don't cry if people call you a idiot, maniac and mainly loser because the name loser itself has a name winner by it's side and i always think life is life when we take a risk...

So, people are you ready to finish the ramp walk with me??

Take care everyone and don't forget to smile... :) :) 

Lastly, Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas!!!

A Stranger She Met.......

She was a stubborn girl with lots of aims in her mind and a very chaotic girl without any plans of her future.She stepped into a new world which is entirely different to her, the culture, the people, the language and everything.

This girl was trying to get along with the new world, even though she miss her parents a lot, she tried to cope up with the new life.She found strange behaviors of the people and those who are from her world are different in that new world and all these have impacted her very much but, she couldn't tell her parents about the variations of her life and troubles, she managed to get along with the new world. The university she joined was really competitive and people are struggling hard to get a good rank and all she needed was a motivation to study hard. Then, she had only one true friend who supported her very honestly and all she had for a mental support was him.
  At March 1st 2010, she never thought her life will take a new turn when she was interrupted in her life with an introduction of a stranger. That day is the day she can never forget in her life which has become a fairy tale come true. This stranger she met was once a known person but still a stranger to her because of communication problems. She was continuing her studies well but suddenly, she got into trouble of finances which made her to change the university. Though, she didn't believed this Stranger but she shared her grief to only two people whom she believed that they can understand her grief of changing the university which she thought to have a degree.

There is a saying, whenever you feel that you are all alone and has no one in this world to believe or support you, god will send you an angel to take care of you. Those angels were her best friend and this stranger. Though, she has many people around her who don't believe in her and her studies including her parents these two angels made her build up her confidence and made her to choose the correct way.She asked her cousin about the decision she wants to make but her cousin simply scolded her saying, " You are not fit for doing this degree!"
This small sentence said it all to her and though she knew for every problem there is a solution but just for a mental support she called her cousin which made her more devastated and her tears are flowing from her eyes all day because of those words. Then, she got a ping in on line from the stranger as usual then this girl told him regarding the sorrow she has, she got a call from the stranger as he asked her number to call her and she gave her number. (Many people may wonder, why would a person share their personal phone number to a stranger?? )
This girl was not even thinking anything else but just crying all day and needed some mental support and confidence of deciding what's next for her, well she is sensitive for sure but she made a big decision to leave her secured world with parents and enter this new dimension world with confidence that she can make it through but now she lost her confidence and was crying whether to return back or how to continue this journey.

The stranger called her and firstly, he comforted her with good motivating words and made her silent from crying and made her understand that it's not important where you complete your degree but how you achieve it and how you show the world that you can make things possible. These words made that girl to think that this stranger is her angel from heaven. Life of hers has been changed the day she started talking to this stranger, may be because she is all alone or because she needs some moral support or what are the reasons for this girl to open the door of her heart to this stranger??

Her true friend also called her after the call from the stranger to console her that, she is not an ordinary girl but wanted to be a successful girl in life.Her mind cooled down and relieved from the pain and she slept for waking up tomorrow with a fresh mind to think what's next for her...

Well, this is a continuing story which i wanted to describe it completely and this is a true story of one of my best friends and am sure everyone will like this fairy tale which came true....!!!

Moral: Sometimes a Stranger can become a motivator to change your path into success.   

Born to Die!!

Many people like to commit suicide and end their lives but what about the martyrs of Army, Navy and all civil services people who give their lives for the country. I always wanted to be in the Army as i believe that we are born for a purpose and that purpose can be your sacrifice to many people or helping people who are in need. I too have been facing many problems like everyone but people who wants to commit suicide need to think about one word, why?Are we benefited by the death?
If we are no more no one cares for us, even our parents cry for a year and then they will live and keep busy on their lives so, what's the use of death?
A soul of a person who committed suicide is never accepted by the Heaven so, why to become a ghost?
A person who committed suicide will be blamed after death calling himself a coward by others, why would anyone want to do it?
For every death there will be a reason, one person may die of kidney failure, heart stroke etc, but those who commit suicide (no reason)!!
Help others and live for others, if you don't want to marry anyone just confess to your parents and go on your way rather than committing suicide. If you failed in love, don't ever fall in love again as better marry any person and then try to love that person because u may not love that person but one day love might happen but don't commit suicide. Some commit suicide because they are not beautiful, isn't it silly??
but it happens sometimes too, well love yourself first then world loves you, beauty comes from heart not from face!!

I salute Army, marine, Navy and all civil services warriors who give up their lives to serve the country where as some fools commit suicide to decrease the population and yeah, one way it is good to control population as any country doesn't need any cowards or scare cats!!

Moral: Live for others and die for others and do anything open heartedly and it may not give you riches but some satisfaction in your journey of life!!

My Experiences in USA!!

Hi Friends,
                I always wanted to write about my three years experience in United States Of America. I have learnt a lot from USA. In this blog i would like to share the little experiences of mine regarding the wonderful Cities i have visited in USA. My first city which i have stepped in was New York and let me start with the amazing experiences i have faced in this busiest city.

New York is a place where there is a unique culture, fashion and the lifestyle is different than the other parts of USA. I have seen many places in New York like the Statue of Liberty which is the best sculpture i have seen. The view of New York city from the boat to the Statue of Liberty was really amazing, surprising and awesome. We can get the glimpse of the whole downtown of New York city. The buildings were so huge and even we can get the newly ongoing construction of World Trade Center. I liked the Hot Dogs from New York Suburbs though my mom never let me to have street foods but still these were really yummy and fresh. The first time i have seen the Street Dancing was in New York and the dancers were really amazing, being a dancer myself i wish to learn certain dance moves from them. These talents are to be supported by the dance companies so that they can earn much more than performing at the streets. I have also noticed the wonderful Street Painting artists, who painted 3D images in such a ease and smoothly. The Street Magicians were kind of fun and really gifted but i wonder they earn much more money or not but they are really having a gifted talent which should be rewarded highly. Then, i have been to the Times Square where i can see all the Display Videos of the advertisers and the Wall Street as usual was busy with the stocks and exchanges but it was a busy street and is very classic.

Well, My experiences as a Tourist to New York was, learnt few steps of dance from Street Dancers, Have got a chance to see the 3D painting and Magical performances. I have also seen people roaming at nights and may be working so late around at 3:00AM too, which amused me so much. I felt am in a world where there is fun, excitement, work, joy and happiness. The winter over there is kinda horrible but the rest of the months will be like a place where anyone could never be bored of.

So, the next experience i gonna share is about Connecticut, USA...

Thanks for reading this post and have a fun and exciting weekends people...

Yours Ravie...!!!!

Unconditional Love!!!

If love can be explained by words I would have written a 1000 books about LOVE,

If love can be explained by expressions I might have made a movie about LOVE,

If love can be shown then I might have opened my heart to show it.

Love is unexplained, a magic of heart which is so strange but it will explain that Love exists in Mother’s hand, Grand Parents stories, dad’s Scolding’s and our Pet’s tail wagging. Generally, if the matter comes about love from Teenage to adults everyone thinks of their boyfriend or girlfriend. But Unconditional love only comes from two people in the whole world is your Parents. Your parents can understand the true feelings of yours, your dreams, your likes or dislikes. For a marriage to turn out to be a lifelong commitment it takes years to understand each other and some couples get separated because of the variations of understandings but they get the support from their family and that mental support will only be given by the person who truly loves you and those persons are called parents. Celebrating your Valentine’s Day with your Spouse or your girlfriend or boyfriend is not a big deal and celebrating the Valentine’s Day with your Parents will give you the true meaning of love. Our spouses may love us unconditionally too but still we shouldn’t leave our parents as Valentine’s Day true meaning is to salute the purity of Love and the existence of a wonderful feeling named LOVE. 

I wish each and every reader of my blog and to the entire world A VERY HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!

Well, Valentine’s Day for Ravie will be same old Work, work, work and work….Phew!!

  

Love and to be Loved!!!

Love is something you cannot explain, a bonding which you feel with the someone special and you wouldn't know it until you start missing them so badly.
Love is a bondage between two hearts and if the love is true, am sure it wouldn't be one-sided and true love always wins the race.

All i know from my experiences is Loving truly a person, will help you learn the bitter side and also the happy side of yours.
Loving your parents will teach you the way to lead your life,
Loving your pets will teach you that love is unconditional,
Loving your friends will teach you that love is in trust and understanding,
Finally Loving the life you are in, will teach you the path of happiness and your destiny to god!

I remember a story about Love, there used to be a girl who is really ambitious and hardworking and a boy who is very unhappy and sad, destiny made them to be together
and one day the girl left the boy as the destiny of the girl is god as she is having a cancer, but still the boy remembers her and now he always smile for her and led his life in a very great way.
He has a ambition to achieve for the love he trusts in. Love is nothing but trust and understanding nothing else.

Love just happens and it is a miracle of heart which responds when you come close to the person you are born for, in short SOUL MATE.

I really admire every person in the whole world who trusts in love and their love was true and i wish them a happy valentine's day.

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY @FEB 14TH,2014.

Awakening your inner self…!!!

With a wide smile and happiness to reach home, trying to cross the road with my Grandma and suddenly there was a huge sound all over the place and then I have checked my back to know if my Grandma is behind me or not, then I came to know that she had met with an accident. I was crossing the road with her holding my hands and walking towards the other side of the road and I have reached the other part but not my granny. All I can see is blood all over the place and people rushing towards the place, am just 8 years old and I was trying to find out where I can find my granny in that crowd. I have seen a fallen motorcycle and two people on my right and my granny right in front of me at a particular distance. I ran towards her, by pushing the crowd and calling my granny and crying. All I remember is the road we were crossing has no one at that time and no vehicles and then we started walking to the other side of the road after the walk sign, but where does this motor cycle come from and how did it hit my granny as I was holding her hand as well then I should also need to get the hit. God is always there and his way of showing things to us is a sign of something which we never can understand. Luckily, my granny just got a leg fracture and she is all well but not the motorcyclist.

At that age if you come across near to death and losing your loved ones right in front of you, how can a small girl can react to this incident?

I have learnt that you are living this very moment because you have done a good deed in your life. Many people who are being either forced to die or accidentally or something else was the destiny. My destiny might be something else which was only known to god. Every person has a destiny and knowing your destiny only comes when you finally start thinking about yourself. Some people think that failing in love is the end of life, losing their loved ones is the end of life, failing in exams, etc. But my question is what’s end of life?

Why are we are living in this world after losing our loved ones?

What’s the exact purpose of ours?

Was it is easy to die or easy to live?

 Not only once I got into these conclusions many times but couldn’t find the answers. What’s called destiny?

Why are we on this Planet?

Why should we earn, eat, sit, think etc.?

May be my questions aren't answered well by anyone but what I concluded myself was life is nothing but keeping yourself happy even the situations worsen, even there is no purpose left for you, Life is a boon given to us, Life is something about you and yourself and the relations you make or come across will leave you and go away but your life is just about conquering yourself, thinking about yourself and thinking about helping others and it all depends on your thoughts and mind control. Life is just a journey of a soul to its destiny and when the destiny is met, you will be called by god no matter where you are.

If there is air which you breathe in was the initial need to be alive, then god is in air, he is everywhere.

The purpose of a human or a living being is to fulfill the destiny we are born for and knowing that destiny will be your own self. I don’t know my destiny, but I knew one day my destiny will be completed and after completing it I wouldn't regret myself to meet the almighty. Planning no future, no past, no present but living this very moment with a smile on face and hope at heart is the purpose of mine. Aspirations, goals etc. are just made by yourself and those are your destiny and losing interest of that and killing yourself will be foolishness.

All you can conquer is about you and only you, you are a lone survivor, you are a born alone and die alone, reach the destiny and give your life a meaning and a purpose which will guide the others in your path… I really admire Gandhi, Martin Luther King and Bill Gates, as they have shown the path to lead a life and conquer it.

Beautiful Roses.....!!!

A life is just like a Rose and never knew this beauty can hurt us, never knew the color will fade one day, never knew there will be thorns in it, never knew it shines for a day!!

A human never wants anything but he wants everything, he/she thinks that we have everything but they don't know they got nothing. Whenever I see roses I feel enlightened to think that why girls mostly like flowers because they are very sensitive just like a girl's heart. I saw many girls who are very much confident, Strong Minded but all are the same by heart, when they got hurt they will show their sensitive side of them. I wonder why girls are compared to flowers, because they are soft and beautiful.

Girls get angry a lot, well these roses never wants to loose but there are many situations where these beautiful roses are made to cry and I have seen these roses fall when they are rejected by their parents, I have also seen when these roses die when they are rejected by their partner, I also have seen these roses cry when these roses are bent down when they are abused, but still these are the beautiful roses with a strong heart and confidence in them which made them to think that still there is a hope in this small world to sustain this cruelty against them.

May be a warrior has to die at last even though he might be a great warrior. May be we are popular among everyone but sometimes we need to loose and at that tough times we will not get any support from anyone but just a faith in god.
Everyone walks away from you just because you are having a tough time; well those who walk away from you are never your friends or relations. People who are your supporters before, now laugh at your back in these tough times. May be we have a very great heart but god always love to test those good people because he wants them to be in Heaven but not in Hell.

Wherever we can see is the cruelty among the woman and the only hope we can get is the change of mind from the people rather than the expectations of controlling the freedom of walking outside for a girl at the evenings. May be these roses are meant to be attractive to the world but it is not their sin to be attractive, many people want them to be in a specific clothing but what no one understands was that, these beautiful roses have such an attraction that they cannot hide or cannot be replaced. If the world thinks to end the race of girls, then there wouldn't be another world as well. We can see many people don’t like to have a girl child because they can’t suffer the pain of losing their child in the hands of a butler; there are many butler’s in the country or in the world, who just want to kill these beautiful roses and chop them so hard that they cannot be visible in this world.

God always test people a lot because he knew that, they will definitely reach their goal in spite of many troubles and hurdles but there has to be a limit for everything, when everything in your hand goes off from you and you are in a position that cannot show your face to anyone but still we need to have a brave Heart for that, Don't ever Give Up in life. The world is harsh towards women but still they survive this world as a Mother, Daughter, and Spouse and are still surviving with a hope of change in the people’s mind towards them.

I salute the beauty, confidence, motherhood of these beautiful roses (girls)......

Note: Roses means Girls/women in the topic.

Krypto and Me!!

Obviously it's not the same as Marley and Me movie or any other movies, it's just me and my dog. My Krypto came to my home when he was around 21 days old and it was Summer time in India. I always wanted a Pet from childhood but my parents never agreed the option but it was all of a miracle or my parent's love towards my siblings i got a pet at last. Of course my parents like me too but i was way too naughty when i was small so,it's enough for my parents to look after me all day!! (I know am sweet!! )

I don't know why i got too attached to this dog, a German Spitz but still i couldn't understand why does he love all of us extremely. Even our parents will stop showing their love at a point of time but never a pet will stop loving it's master. Sometimes i used to scold Krypto, but he never stopped licking me after my scolding stopped. I always love to walk with him in the mornings and his begging for the morning walk remembers me it's been a while he is with us but i don't even realized that years passed by.

I know that Krypto, who saved a puppy from a big Dalmatian and even i witnessed it no one believed as he is so small and how can anyone believe it?? This is a world which need proof, but i know am not talking lies and am happy i witnessed it and i know this small dog who was so neat and clean at the age of 21 days old itself as we never trained him to be clean and he never got any training from us for being clean. He likes if we talk about Golden Retriever dog as he was his favorite dog, who used to live near to our house at the time. I have many memories of him and with those memories i came to USA and recently i visited India then, my Krypto didn't recognized me at all!!

He was so sick at that time and i thought to touch him and he didn't even let me touch him but accepted the Toys i bought for him. Krypto forgot me as it was a  shock for me . He was sick still, but don't know he was not the same as before and has got Luxating Patella to his one of his leg and it is really sad to see that dog, who used to jump on me when i used to visit him. This all happened when one Veteran gave him a injection and that mad doctor did something to my dog which made him this sick. He was a very healthy dog and never got any health problems until 7 years but all of a sudden after that Veteran's injection, we are seeing our dog in pain and low at health.

This post is to all those Veteran's who treat animals, please money can buy you a car, house etc. These things will fade away or will never come with you to your graveyard when you die so, why do you people play with animals life?
I know my Krypto is hanging still just because we love him so much and he is resisting the pain because he wanted to be with us some more time and due to the veteran now, all we can see is him vomiting and having a dry cough.. My Dog never asked us to give him food or he begged for chicken anytime and he was such a good pet and he was sick for almost 9 months by now, became so thin than we ever can imagine and really he is holding the pain because of his love for us. Now, he couldn't even walk properly and i still remember   that day when he showed me his leg where that MAD VETERAN put the injection on a Nerve of his leg which made him cannot walk properly and it's swollen the nerves at that part and every Veteran say that there is no cure for it.

Moral: Please people don't be so selfish and please be aware of the consequences of the deeds you make!!

Strange Meeting...!!! (The End)

Hi frnds,
            Sam and Rachel got some misunderstanding but still talking after that incident in Rachel's hometown.

There is a saying whenever in a relation if a third person enters spoils the relation.
In this story the third person came like as a destroyer and  it is Rachel's best friend named Patricia,Rachel told Patricia about her relation with Sam and the
things happened between them. Rachel although didn't disclose anything in-depth but jealous Patricia got the information that Rachel and Sam were serious about each other and thought to
end their relation.
Patricia, made up a wonderful story and even dragged her Whimsical Boy friend John into her big plan.
They made up a story of accusing Sam, that he made lewd comments on Patricia and John tried to assault Sam as it is natural for any boy friend to get anger.
They also confronted to Sam that, it was Rachel who told them about this lewd comments and they appreciate her honesty.
Sam got furious and called Rachel and scolded her so badly even calling her characterless for this, without asking whether there is any wrong of her's or not.
Rachel got hurt ed so badly,even though she thought it was fine to loose her love than loosing her friendship with Patricia and supported Patricia,as Rachel couldn't see the evil tears of Patricia.
Rachel even though hurt ed she waited for Sam to cool down and call her but Sam never called her and he was long gone from then on wards.

All happened so suddenly that Sam and Rachel were parted within minutes of time even though their relationship was from 3 years.

Rachel's Point of View:

Rachel loved Sam truly and she was very honest in her relation.She even told her parents about her interest and even her friends.
Rachel expected Love from Sam and nothing much and even she didn't looked at the condition of financial matters of Sam who was lower than rachel,in spite of being the
most handsome boy in town. Rachel was waiting for the Sam to ask her whether she said all about the Lewd comments but not some scolding from him neither getting comments from him.
Rachel's honest nature was not handled by Sam, which led him to broke the relation is what Rachel thinks now.

Sam's Point of View:

Sam being a Handsome boy and having lot many options of having girl friend's never expected that he would fall for a girl like Rachel.
Rachel became so close to him as her voice is enough to soothe his pain. Sam believed John's and Patricia's words,as they are good friend's of Rachel but he didn't asked Rachel whether those were true.
Sam thinks Marriage is not his part of life and wanted Rachel to be his dearest lifelong, which is worth reasonable for some but not like those like Rachel who is kind of sensible in this kind of things.

Writer's View:

What as a writer i feel in this issue was, Though SAM and Rachel love each other, trust each other, fallen in the trap of evil minded Patricia but still Rachel was trying to explain the thing to Sam, where the part of understanding lags in his part.
For any person who is angry,sometimes they do mistakes which they doesn't mean but whenever Ego comes into a relation it over rules the person.
Sam really loves Rachel but he lost her as he believed in evil Patricia's words doubting on Rachel.
Sam should have told Patricia that i believe in Rachel rather than calling her Characterless.
Even though Sam says her Sorry, still Rachel cannot accept it as there was no Love in Sam's heart as if a person loves a person never doubts on them but rather finds out the thing.
Sam did Time pass with Rachel nothing much than that and masked himself that he Loves her. But the fact is Sam never loved Rachel but played with her emotions and feelings.
Sam betrayed Rachel with this one incident and thinking he could get some other beautiful girl in his life but where in the case of Rachel, survived from Depression with the help of parents and friends and now happily looking forward for a new destination of life.

If really Sam loved Rachel, he wouldn't let her in that condition. Even if we consider a friend in that condition we try to help them but Sam never looked back to Rachel and left her in distress and grief.

Moral: People what we learn from this love story is that even though Fate is bringing Sam and Rachel together. still the same Fate never let them to be together and what we can say is never believe in persons or trust a person who believes everything.
   

Strange Meeting...!!! (Continued)

Hi friends,
               The continued story of SAM and Rachel...

Sam tried to persuade Rachel by sending her messages and then she thought of giving him a chance for his mistake.
Friendship soon blossomed between them, Rachel who is having lot of hatred towards Sam started liking him as days passed by.
One day, Rachel was so depressed as she has to change the University which she was studying at graduation and her family and friends started firing her with lots of discouragement then came Sam's advice,made Rachel so strong and energetic to follow her mind and heart towards her destination.
This incident made Rachel fall deeply into trusting Sam and she has a very good respect for him from then on wards.
Sam too got used to Rachel in such a way that morning or evening or night can't stop talking to her or messaging her.
They didn't even know that they are falling into love with each other so deeply that Rachel started feeling for Sam and Sam also got to know that , when he went for a visit to his hometown and where there is no chance of calling or messaging Rachel,he came to know the importance of Rachel at that time,
People fall in love never expecting that they would fall in love and love just happens..
Silence and hatred breaks when two hearts fall in love in such a way that they don't see anything beyond or before in them. Love has the power to separate the hearts as well combine them in such a way they are never separated.
His eyes showed the love of hers and her smile showed her love towards him..
When love struck between two people, they can never survive it without each other..
Her voice is his music, his voice is her life, deeper into deeper they have drunken the honey of love towards each other...
They know what is in front of them and Love is said to be blind faith as one who will fall into this never or ever can return..

But Love will be smooth until we are trying to understand each other, but once they understand each other quarrels start as expectations become high and overrule their minds.
This is the major part of any relation that Hopes and expectations over rule but still Love will never die between them. Although both of them fight on phones, sit idle for two-three days they knew that either of them will talk and the things get sorted out but
living in virtual is not reality, in real world you need to provide a status of your relation, Sam always was little thoughtful to confess to his friends that he loves Rachel and feared that they might spoil his relationship with Rachel.

Rachel always lived honestly as she already told her parents that she loves Sam and even Sam also loves her the same way as she does, Both are in Love for sure but the problem is with Sam as he never confessed his love to Rachel among others or even to his parents.
Rachel's friends used to suggest her that Sam is just doing Time pass relation with you and nothing more than that but Rachel never believed in them but trusted her Love towards Sam. Sam is very independent guy and may be Sam was in a illusion that Rachel might be doing time pass with him as they never met each other but they are emotionally connected.
Yes,people Rachel and Sam were talking all these years through phones and messaging but never met each other in-person until 3 years of their relation.

In today's world,does anyone believe in these kind of Online relationships and do you think they are successful, sometimes they will and sometimes they won't.

It was Summer, finally Rachel got a chance to visit her hometown and Sam too, she was returning from abroad and she was so excited to meet Sam and even Sam was in such a mood that he planned whole days that he want to spend with Rachel.
Expectations were hyped between both of them and Rachel was so excited that Sam told her that he will receive her at the airport and Rachel with many hopes,expectations got down the plane and walked towards the Exit and seen her family and friends but no sign of Sam....
Where are the words of promise from Sam that he has given to Rachel that he would come to airport? Still Rachel didn't giveup her faith and trust in Sam and waited for him to call her.
Sam called her and explained his busy schedule because of which he couldn't make it possible to the airport. Rachel trusted him.
The next day, Sam called Rachel that he was in her hometown and was waiting at the Beach of Rachel's hometown. Rachel heart filled with joy and happiness that at last she got a chance to meet him after many years, she drove to the beach and there comes her dreams of love in-front of her, giving his hand to shake as it was very mystical for them and
they sat and talked a lot but Sam again got a time constraint as his eyes shows that love of his to Rachel but he abruptly went away telling her he has somethings to take care of at his home.
Rachel still gave him a chance as he might be busy and it's unusual but still it can happen..
That was the last or the first day she ever met Sam in-person and Sam never showed up but still he keeps on calling Rachel and texts her.
Rachel was confused of this kind of behavior of Sam and even though she loves him,she wanted to break the relation as there is no importance to her and went to abroad again leaving this mystery part of life at one-side in a illusion to make a decision.

What can we say about this incidents happened between Sam and Rachel, are they in Love or is it a Friendship??
If it's a friendship then,why they can't live without each other or without talking to each other??
Is it a mistake of Rachel loving Sam and do you think Sam is a fickle minded person?

To be continued.....


Moral: Love is something happens and its a magic but don't fool someone even though you love but if you can't give commitment to them then please don't love them and don't give false expectations to the others.